I don’t think I’m aromantic–I get something that I think resembles a crush very frequently. I’m a woman in my late 30s and asexual (not sex-repulsed, but also not interested in it at all, solo or partnered).
They’re not oblivious or insensitive–if they were, we wouldn’t be friends–and they haven’t said anything, just given me space. I love them, and I’m worried I already have hurt them because they’ve stopped trying to hug me at get-togethers. I’m writing to you because you’re a man and you primarily advise men, and I know there’s all kinds of cultural baggage around men’s sexuality and treating it as predatory, and I don’t want to hurt my male friends with my issues. I’m sorry in advance that this is long, but I feel like it’s complicated.
